starlightacademia:

I wish I wasn’t, such a dreamer. I’ve ruined this life for myself.

— N.M. Sanchez

pommycore:

aaaaa omg a coworker just came to my desk like “oh, you changed your name? me too, look!–” and pointed out her badge and then her ringless hand and gleefully announced, “divorce!!” and we exchanged congratulations and fist bumped djdnsnjs best interaction of my entire transition

black-tourmaline:

““It’s dark because you are trying too hard. Lightly child, lightly. Learn to do everything lightly. Yes, feel lightly even though you’re feeling deeply. Just lightly let things happen and lightly cope with them. I was so preposterously serious in those days… Lightly, lightly – it’s the best advice ever given me…So throw away your baggage and go forward. There are quicksands all about you, sucking at your feet, trying to suck you down into fear and self-pity and despair. That’s why you must walk so lightly. Lightly my darling…””

— Aldous Huxley, Island 

drunkwhenimadethis:

You just want everything new to feel natural and that’s your problem

drunkwhenimadethis:

We exist in so much more than what we will have the strength to actualize in this lifetime and THAT is what breaks my heart. Have less shame if you are plagued by it. Let it GO

lyrifaun:

anonil88:

lucy-x-5billion:

girls will start getting settled for sleep like “wow i’m getting to bed early tonight” and it’s 3am

Literally 3am

crabs-but-better:

fun fact! did you know that you can gain extra ‘forbidden time’ by staying up late in the night? but Watch Out

compassionatereminders:

• The “getting it done in an unconventional way” method.
• The “it’s not cheating to do it the easy way” method.
• The “fuck what you’re supposed to do” method.
• The “get stuff done while you wait” method.
• The “you don’t have to do everything at once” method.
• The “it doesn’t have to be permanent to be helpful” method.
• The “break the task into smaller steps” method.
• The “treat yourself like a pet” method.
• The “it doesn’t have to be all or nothing” method.
• The “put on a persona” method.
• The “act like you’re filming a tutorial” method.
• The “you don’t have to do it perfectly” method.
• The “wait for a trigger” method.
• The “do it for your future self” method.
• The “might as well” method.
• The “when self discipline doesn’t cut it” method.
• The “taking care of yourself to take care of your pet” method.
• The “make it easy” method.
• The “junebugging” method.
• The “just show up” method.
• The “accept when you need help” method.
• The “make it into a game” method.
• The “everything worth doing is worth doing poorly” method.
• The “trick yourself” method.
• The “break it into even smaller steps” method.
• The “let go of should” method.
• The “your body is an animal you have to take care of” method.
• The “fork theory” method.
• The “effectivity over aesthetics” method.

adhdtogether:

earthtokk:

livingthatadhdlife:

Arts and crafts are perfect for adhd folk bc there’s an immediate and visual progress.

Cut fabric, sew it together. You just made clothing.

Put some beads on some twine. You just made jewelry.

You can see your productivity.

Chores are the opposite. Yes, your kitchen is clean now. But you’ll cook again that evening or the next day and you’ll have to start over. Yes, you vacuumed. But two days later it’s dusty again. Laundry done, until next week.

Chores never end.

But arts and crafts, nobody can undo the thing you made. You can hold it up and say “look. I made this. I did the productivity today” and nothing quite beats that serotonin rush.

My ability to do chores improved immensely when I stopped thinking of them as things that can be finished and started thinking of them as cycles. It’s no longer “what do I need to do to get the kitchen clean?” but “where am I in the kitchen cycle?” eg dishes go from the cupboard to the table tto the dishwasher and back to the cupboard. If your goal is to finish, you’ll always be in a state of failure. If your goal is to keep momentum going, every little step is a success.

That being said, there’s nothing more satisfying than finishing a pair of knit mittens.

This… might really help me. I’m going to try out this mindset and see how it goes.

feral-ballad:

Safia Elhillo, from Home Is Not a Country; “Dusk”